Discovering Peace in Disorder

disorder

Dear Self,

I saw you hopelessly staring at the piles in your living room yesterday and watched you pick at the duct tape on the floor with your toes.  I also heard you sigh as you stared out the kitchen window only to have your vision obscured by cardboard covering a whole made by a stray arrow from your brothers’ heroic adventures.  You see messes caused by a busy life, but that’s not what others see.  

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How my Emotional Mess became El Shaddai’s Mosiac

emotional mess to mosaic

Dear Self,

I had no idea I had it in me to write you three letters about managing your emotions.  But as I was pondering the series of letters I have most recently written I realized that I neglected to teach you my favorite emotion management technique.  So while it’s still on my mind I want to share with you my secret to floating through the ocean of emotions.

One day when I was drowning in my high-school emotions mom sent me to my room to journal until I had a happy heart.  I was mad.   But between filling lined notebook paper and smearing ink with my tears I discovered David’s secret.

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PART 2: Burns, Burglars, and Emotions

Burns, Burglars, and Emotions

Dear Self,

In my last letter I explained that emotions aren’t wrong, rather it’s what we do with our emotions that can be wrong.  After all, emotions are merely the experience of our thoughts.  They should not initiate our actions, but rather be treated as indicators to what is happening in our souls.  Which leads us to soul-searching.

Back to our brownie analogy, when you feel the heat you need to register what that heat is and where it’s coming from.  In other words, upon feeling heat you instinctively know that you forgot hot mitts.  Unfortunately, our brain doesn’t instinctively understand the thoughts sparking our emotions.  So, some soul-searching is required.  

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PART 1: Burns, Burglars, and Emotions

The truth about emotions

Dear Self,

I know you hate emotions.  You’ve tried to throw them overboard like sandbags on a hot air balloon.  Living with them is sickening.  But once you’ve dumped them, living without them is horrifying. I’ve got news for you, (WARNING: I’m about to sound like your mother) emotions aren’t bad.  They’re not deadweights anchoring you to average. It’s what you do with your emotions that can be bad.

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How Chaos Calls, Chores Repeat, and Reading Changes Everything

Chaos, Chores, and Reading

Dear Self,

I know life is full right now.  Your to-do list is two pages long, you have a rough draft on a book due in a month, you’re trying to eat healthy and help your friend be strong enough to complete her first triathlon on May 1st, you’ve got flights to book, things to clean, pants to mend, and siblings to love.  

You’re busy.  But don’t let it be said that chores and chaos screamed so loud you slammed your book down to answer them.  

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On Overcoming Overwhelm

A girl decides to overcome overwhelm while hiking

Dear Self,

It’s time you overcame overwhelm. Being overwhelmed is not wrong, it’s just like when a wave overtakes the shore.  Each wave that recedes takes with it shells and sand.  In the same way being overwhelmed steals from you.  It steals joy, productivity, creativity and so much more.  

While you’re overwhelmed by all your goals please know that the best thing you can do to get more done is to overcome overwhelm.  So, settle down and follow these three simple steps to overcome overwhelm:

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